Six Relationship-Ending Dating Behaviors

"No matter how much love exists in your relationship, it cannot survive without trust".

Finding the one to share a relationship with is a blessing. Once you've bonded with this special someone, keep in mind that respecting your partner's privacy and retaining trust are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. If you cross certain behavioral boundaries that violate your partner's trust, you may cause irreparable damage to your relationship.
As a dating coach, I'm not usually a fan of hard and fast "rules" for relationships. I've, nevertheless, identified widespread behaviors which will likely end any relationship. So to help you ensure that you don't breach the "trust" boundary in your relationship, here are six detrimental dating behaviors that should always be avoided:

1. Prying into private info. If you suspect your partner of betrayal, does that give you the right to start reading your partner's email? To listen to his/her voicemail messages? To hack into his/her online profile? The answer to all of these is "no!"
You should never dig through your partner's personal emails or listen to your partner's voicemail messages.
You should never dig through your partner's personal emails or listen to your partner's voicemail messages. By doing this, you violate not only your partner's trust, but also the trust your partner has with anyone who left those voice messages and emails.

2. Lying for the greater good. Lying is never good in a relationship, although we've probably all been guilty of doing it. Lying to your partner in an effort to avoid hurting him/her or to avoid confrontation may seem like a wise decision. Regrettably, you will end up digging a deeper hole for yourself when that lie is exposed, which is almost always inevitable. When caught in this situation, you end up hurting your partner anyway, and whatever you were trying to protect your partner from -- by lying to them -- will be even worse because of your deception. I recommend honestly communicating with your partner from the get-go.

3. Pulling a "James Bond." You should never snoop in your partner's private things (drawers, wallet, filing cabinet, or private records -- such as bank or credit card statements). Furthermore, nothing justifies snooping. No matter what you have a "hunch" about, snooping through your partner's things should never be pursued to confirm or deny your hunch. Your partner's possessions and personal records should be kept private unless he/she gives you permission to look at them. Spying on your partner is one of the most blatant violations of your partner's trust and will achieve nothing except having your partner never trust you to be alone near his/her things ever again.

4. Designating yourself "Magnum P.I." Another ill-advised way some people try to verify suspected bad behavior by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to "catch their partner in the act" of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner's car by driving by his/her house, work, or gym or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you have a convincing hunch that your partner is hiding something from you, stalking is the wrong way to address it. If your partner finds out you've been "tailing him/her" in your car, he/she will no longer trust you.

5. Sending others to do your dirty work. Don't ever send a friend or anyone else to gather information for you about your partner or to spy on your partner for you. This means, don't send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your partner will be. Don't have your friend try to eavesdrop on your partner's conversations in places he/she goes. Don't ask your friends to use their cell phone to snap covert pictures of your partner. All of these favors from friends not only violate your partner's trust, but also reveal your total lack of trust in your partner.

6. Checking up constantly. One of the biggest ways to reveal that you don't trust your partner is to manifest that distrust with paranoid and obsessive behavior. While calling your partner regularly is quite normal, calling him/her incessantly to "check up" comes off as obsessive and will drive your partner away. If, for example, your partner is unable to answer his/her phone for a few hours and by the time he/she accesses it he/she discovers you've called 50 times, you not only come off as being paranoid and obsessive, but you clearly communicate to your partner that you distrust him/her. Also, when you panic every time 10 minutes go by without a reply from your partner by a phone call or an email, it sends the exact same message.
So even if you have some type of "intuition" that your partner is hiding something from you, it's better to engage in a confrontation with him/her openly rather than searching for answers secretly. Even if your partner doesn't respond to your attempts to talk about it the first, second, or third time, chances are that you'll eventually discuss it -- and the outcome of voicing your suspicions honestly with your partner will always be better than if your partner discovers you engaged in any of the behaviors I've talked about.
No matter how much love exists in your relationship, it cannot survive without trust.
No matter how much love exists in your relationship, it cannot survive without trust. Violating someone's trust will never take a relationship to a better place. In fact, by doing so, you may very well be single-handedly orchestrating the end of what could have been a fantastic relationship. Also, keep in mind that I didn't mention the most obvious relationship-ending behavior to avoid: cheating.

Friendship that counts.....

I thought this was the end of our friendship...coz were facing small conflict like misunderstanding..., shes good to me and of corz I to her, she smiles..., laughs at my jokes..., try to understand me.., ahmmmmm...gives empathy. One time she enters my office and says .. "why your always laughs at me when you see me.., is there somethig wrong with my face.." I said.. nothing coz it was my habit to smile also with a person who wears a smile..heheheh.. I let her sit in a chair and ok...go on ...do what you wanna do... Shes typing her resume and I was impressed by her sample of it..its a curriculum vitae..nice and impressive style of format.. clean and awesome., so tidy. After she done she said to me ..ahhmm im finished.. "Ahh ..ok lets check it " I said.. its ok now and it was nice format haaa...very good..impressive. After that i didnt save it again in the PC's document coz i thought she saves it already there...it was my fault and after that i check..if her document is ok now in my server....but i found.., the one page only saves there.. I go back to her place and i check again her work but in unpleasant situation i cant open her document. She says what happen O God..i took an hour to finished tha and it turn into nothing.. O c'mon it must not.....O my God please make a way to retrieve it... "oohh Ok im trying Ok..." Next option i said ...do you have still time right... and our next solution is to type it again....
I let her tarnsfer to another computer and she said ok... The olny one thing i wrote this to my blog bcoz i cant forget what she says..."If your not my friend you'll have an embarrassment here now..." OMG .. I understand why... coz of her anger ...i concluded. I try to ignore what she says and still try to continue my work on my table...I feel hurt by what she says..but i said to my self another phase of our friendship here that counts..i must not be angry with her..work is work and my personal life is separate here...I know that she feels that I'm not ok with those words i hear from her. That what friendship and bonds are connected..when someone of your feriends get hurt of corz you can feel also what his/her feelings. On the other side she has a nice sense and nice person...still there am I helped her assist her in her resume to finish. Well after all our friendship still there....that exist..suddenly she tells me bout here family background..., what she did..., coz shes no work as of now and she said she gives up everything just for her loving mother suffers from a pain before..., it must be confidential for her... the end.

13 Things Your Waiter Won't Tell You

1. Avoid eating out on holidays and Saturday nights. The volume of customers guarantees that most kitchens will be pushed beyond their ability to produce a high-quality meal.

2. There are almost never any sick days in the restaurant business. A busboy with a child to support isn't going to stay home and miss out on $100 because he's got strep throat.

3. When customers make personal attacks, adulterating food or drink is a convenient way for servers to exact covert vengeance. Waiters can and do spit in people's food.

4. Never say "I'm friends with the owner." Restaurant owners don't have friends. This marks you as a clueless poseur the moment you walk in the door.

5. Treat others as you want to be treated.

6. Don't snap your fingers to get attention.

7. Don't order meals that aren't on the menu. You're forcing the chef to cook something he doesn't make on a regular basis, and it won’t be as good.

8. Splitting entrées is okay, but don't ask for water, lemon, and sugar so you can make your own lemonade.

9. If you find a waiter you like, always ask to be seated in his or her section. Tell all your friends so they'll start asking for that server as well. The server will be grateful and take good care of you.

10. If you can't afford to leave a tip, you can't afford to eat in the restaurant.

11. Always examine the check. Sometimes large parties are unaware that a gratuity has been added to the bill, so they tip on top of it. Waiters "facilitate" this error.

12. If you want to hang out, that's fine. But increase the tip to make up for money the server would have made if he or she had had another seating at that table.

13. Never, ever come in 15 minutes before closing time. While you're chitchatting over salads, your entrées will be languishing under the heat lamp while the dishwasher is spraying industrial-strength, carcinogenic cleaning solvents in their immediate vicinity.

"Edmund" in Narnia

Skandar Amin Casper Keynes

(age 16)London, England
Skandar Amin Casper Keynes (born 5 September 1991) is an English actor. He is best known for starring as Edmund Pevensie in The Chronicles of Narnia film series. He has appeared in the first two installments, The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe and The Chronicles of Narnia: Prince Caspian, released on May 16, 2008, and will star in The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, due May 7, 2010.[1]
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Biography:
Skandar Keynes was born in London, the son of Zelfa Cecil Hourani and writer Randal Keynes.[2] His maternal grandfather, Cecil Fadlo Hourani, is a famous writer of Lebanese descent, and the brother of Albert Hourani, also a well-known writer and professor.[2] On his father's side Keynes is the great-great-great grandson of the famous biologist Charles Darwin, through whose paternal grandmother Mary Howard he is descended from Thomas Howard, 4th Duke of Norfolk (uncle to both Anne Boleyn and Catherine Howard) and thus from King Edward I. Keynes is also the great-great nephew of the economist John Maynard Keynes and the nephew of the historian and Cambridge professor Simon Keynes.[2] Through his great-grandmother, Hester Agnes Pinsent – the wife of Nobel Prize laureate Edgar Adrian, 1st Baron Adrian – he is also related to the Scottish philosopher David Hume.[3] He has an older sister, Soumaya Keynes,(born 1989), who has appeared in various productions for BBC Radio 4.
Keynes has stated that he is an atheist.[4][5]
Keynes attended the Anna Scher Theatre School from 2000 to 2005 and currently attends the all-boys City of London School along with Daniel Radcliffe. He starts Sixth Form and the first year of his A Level studies in September 2008. He has taken History, Biology, Chemistry and Maths for A-Level.
In the summer of 2006, Keynes and his grandfather, mother, and sister were forced to flee from Beirut, Lebanon, where the family was holidaying when the 2006 Lebanon War began.[2]
Keynes currently resides in Highbury, London. He studies Taekwondo and plays the cornet, the cello,the flute,and the guitar. He supports Arsenal F.C..
He auditioned (successfully) for The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe at the same as he auditioned (unsuccessfully) for the role of Simon Brown in Nanny McPhee. His voice broke during the filming of The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, leaving his sister Soumaya to voice some of his lines.[6]

2010
The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader
Edmund Pevensie
pre-production
NA
2008
The Chronicles of Narnia: Prince Caspian
Edmund Pevensie
$357.3 million
2005
The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe
Edmund Pevensie
$744,783,957
2003
Ferrari
Enzo Ferrari at the age of 8
Television movie
NA

^ "Narnia Voyage Postponed to 2010", E! Entertainment (2007-09-21). Retrieved on 2007-09-21.
^ a b c d Anderson, Jon Lee (2006-07-24). "Change of Plans". The New Yorker. Retrieved on 2006-10-18.
^ "Notes on the Rendall family". Retrieved on 2008-05-29.
^ Martin, Paul (2006-03-25). "Exclusive Interview with Skandar Keynes". Narnia Fans. Retrieved on 2008-06-18. “I am an Athiest. I know the films really Christian and everything but it doesn’t really affect me. Oh and you know I’m related to Charles Darwin.”
^ Savage, David (2006-06-19). "William Moseley and Skandar Keynes Interview!". Popcorn. Retrieved on 2008-06-25. “So apparently I'm an atheist, I'm into Darwin...”
^ Skandar Keynes, Georgie Henley, and Andrew Adamson. The Chronicles of Narnia:The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe [Cast Commentary] [DVD].

Just Pause... and Thank You.....

In this busy world were negatives vibes, auras, people sorrounds you, sometimes your customer, some are your friends..., peer pressure they said. You feel happy when someone acknowledge, smile and say thank you to you..when u did something good in their part. Let me share to you my experience here at Blue 11, one day in my busy schedule..smiles and accomodate my customer daily, assist in their needs inside our cafe...one day a girl came back, early in the morning in our cafe and ask if i found her USb in PC number 7.., I said: yes i found it there...at PC number 7... i thought u forgot it there? i said..grateful i found it..hehhehe.. She smiles at me and added... she told her friend she has to check the USb of where she left it..i guess in Blue 11... and her friend says: dont worry the attendant in that cafe is good and approachable dont worry im sure he'll give it to you the other day...., So amazing and impressive words i hear..it akes my day complete and i saw a clear aura and vibration..it feels good to be affirmed by my customer, though were'nt so close to each other... Thank God..!

How to Manage Stress During Tough Times

With news headlines all around us announcing economic changes for the worse, a lot of us are beginning to feel the twist of anxiety. When this stress response comes, the neurochemicals in our brain are thrown off balance.
Sustained periods of stress will affect your brain, leading to chemical imbalance. It will interfere with your memory, focus and concentration, making you feel agitated and unable to calm down. It is crucial for brain health and overall peace of mind that you learn to control your anxiety effectively. Read on to learn the ways to quell your anxiety and relax. As always, if you are undergoing serious anxiety, consult a healthcare professional.

1. Health in Mind = Health in BodyThe average person has 60,000 thoughts a day, and nearly 80 percent of them are negative. Imagine what this is doing to your body! This negativity affects your thought patterns and behaviors subconsciously, and this has an unhealthy impact on your body.
Reframe the way you say things to yourself. You can actually change the response to anxiety with repeated affirmations, which will introduce a new positive pattern behavior in your thinking. Instead of being anxious, give empowering messages to yourself: I am strong, I am grateful, I can get through this. Repeat these positive affirmations throughout your day to transform the stress and change your attitude.

2. Cut Back on StimulantsStress, anxiety, insomnia, and a racing mind are byproducts of taking in too much caffeine, the central nervous system stimulator that works against your attempts to relax the body and calm the mind. To start, try cutting back for just week to see how fewer stimulants affect your overall stress level. Switch to decaf coffee, or better yet, drink herbal tea. Also, cut out sodas and other drinks that are packed with stimulants.

3. Deep Breathing Calms AnxietyIf you are in a stressful situation, you may have noticed that you breath very shallowly, up in your throat area. Unfortunately, many adults breathe this way all the time; somewhere along the way, we stopped breathing abdominally, as we did when we were babies. This habitual shallow breathing mimics the bodily actions of stress, which can actually induce your body to feel anxiety. When you learn to breathe deeply all day - by breathing from your diaphragm - you will reduce general anxiety and gain other proven benefits, such as lowered blood pressure and heart rate. Also, it is estimated that 70 percent of the toxins and wastes in our bodies are eliminated through respiratory breathing. So start deep breathing!
Here's how: Make it part of your every day schedule to practice 20-30 minutes of deep breathing every day, and your body will respond by being relaxed all the time. To learn a method for proper breathing, click here. Also, look into stress-reducing mind-body disciplines such as tai chi, yoga, qigong, and meditation, which all incorporate breathing work into their routines.

4. Herbal Help for AnxietyValerian, sometimes called "nature's tranquilizer, is used to regulate the nervous system and relieve tension, irritability, nervous exhaustion and stress, and anxiety for centuries. As a sedative, valerian is non-addictive and relieves sleeplessness without the morning-after grogginess often associated with prescription sleep medications.
Schisandra berry has been used for thousands of years in Chinese medicine to revitalize the senses. It increases physical endurance and mental concentration, while at the same time soothing the nerves and taking the edge off anxiety. Take these herbs anytime during the day and before bed in tea or capsule form. Many of my patients have had remarkable results with Calm-Fort Elixir, an all-natural formulation of herbs to calm your spirit. For more information, click here.

5. Try the Nutrient GABAA healthy brain needs a balance between neural chemicals that excite the nerves and those that calm the nerves. GABA (gamma amino butyric acid) is the primary neural transmitter for calming the transmission of nerve signals. It can help prevent anxiety-related messages from reaching the brain. Having levels of GABA that are too low can increase anxiety, insomnia, irritability, and depression. My suggestion is to eat a diet rich in GABA including fish, especially mackerel and wheat bran or to take 250-500 milligrams on a daily basis, along with vitamin B6.

6. Get Out of Your Head By Helping OthersMost of us could sit around all day agonizing in our heads about bad news and working our way into a negative inner dialogue. The way to get out of your own head is by doing something for others. Offer to help someone else and completely focus on his or her needs. Give a friend a hand with moving or planning an event. Volunteer for a charitable cause. It's amazing how taking the focus off yourself can reduce your stress and anxiety.I hope you find the ways to check your anxiety! I invite you to visit often and share your own personal health and longevity tips with me.

May you live long, live strong, and live happy!

Dating Advice: Spot and Stop Friends Who Botch Your Love Life

Four steps to uncover and defend against a 'frenemy' (an enemy disguised as a friend)

In the "Sex and the City" movie, Miranda functions as a friend-turned-frenemy and helps derail her friend's dream wedding. At a strategic point in the upcoming nuptials, she verbally puts down the idea of marriage to the commitment-phobic groom! In this one act, Miranda puts a nail in the coffin of her best friend's dream. In case you haven't seen the movie, I won't reveal how things do turn out, but there are lessons learned from this scene.
First of all, finding love is a challenge; and unfortunately, friends and family members can sometimes make it even tougher. When people in your inner circle become negative, pessimistic, competitive, jealous, or don't show you appreciation and/or encouragement, it inflames your own doubts and fears. If you're in a new romantic relationship, these reactions can come on suddenly; they may be familiar and ingrained parts of lifetime relationships that are so subtle, you may not even be fully aware of them. In either case, unsupportive reactions toward your date and you can pull you both back into being hopeless about love. In extreme cases, they can sabotage a growing relationship, as Miranda did in the "Sex and the City" movie! And if you're not dating someone currently,
negative feedback from people close to you can even stop you from getting back in the dating scene or dating altogether.
negative feedback from people close to you can even stop you from getting back in the dating scene or dating altogether.
A friend who feeds you negativity isn't a friend, but a frenemy. A frenemy may be chipping away your dating potential without you even being aware of it. Ask yourself, do any of these incidents sound familiar?
A "best friend" takes an instant dislike to a date you really like
A friend insists that all the "good ones" are taken
A sister/brother reminds you of your past failures or the duds you've fallen for
Dad criticizes any date you bring around
Mom clucks about how men/women would find you more attractive if you only lost those 10 pounds
Your two closest friends flake on the first dinner party you're hosting with your date
These are typical behaviors of friends-turned-frenemies. Here are four steps to use to handle frenemies and protect your love life:

Step 1: Uncover frenemies

Who do you spend the most time with socially? Regarding the people close to you, answer the following questions:
Are they single? Are they in a relationship? If so, do they generally describe it as loving or not?
Do you feel good hanging around them? How do you feel right after being with them?
Are they supportive of your self-esteem and attractiveness?
What are their attitudes towards love or relationships in general?
How do they react when you're in a relationship?

Step 2: Stop your whining

Often you are unconsciously encouraging your frenemies to be negative by complaining to them about what is wrong with your love life. For three days, take a notebook and make a note of every time you complain to anyone. For the next three days complain to no one. Write about how this feels.

Step 3: Make a list of what you need from frenemies

For example, you may need your best friend to stop complaining about how awful men/women are. You may need your dad/mom to tell you what he/she really likes about your new date.

Step 4: Ask your frenemies to give you the support you need

Be straight and honest.
Tell them you want to have a positive outlook about love and you need them to be positive too. Most will respond.
Tell them you want to have a positive outlook about love and you need them to be positive too. Most will respond. With the few frenemies who resist and continue being negative, move to a more distant, yet polite, relationship with them. You have to protect yourself and your own hopeful outlook on love.
Anyone can make a mistake and can turn frenemy on you.