3 Red Flags That You're Headed for a Breakup

When it comes to breaking up, hindsight is 20/20. But wouldn't it be nice if you could tell that you and your partner were headed for a falling out before it happened?
Fortunately, you can predict a break up. And with just a little bit of tweaking, you can get back on track and rescue your relationship before it hits the rocks.

Red Flag #1: Tuning OutOne of the most common reasons relationships fail is because one or both partners is tuning out. It might sound minor, but in actuality, few things are more hurtful than being ignored by your loved one, whether that is accompanied by emotional neglect or physical distance.
The Cure: Take Down the Wall Tuning back in is easy. All you have to do is agree to listen to your partner's feedback and dedicate time and emotion to the relationship again. Start taking down the emotional wall, brick by brick. Look at your partner in the eye when he or she speaks (even if it is not what you want to hear), make physical contact daily (even if it is just holding hands), and re-commit to the relationship.

Red Flag #2: Fighting Fire with FireCouples who fight fire with fire can expect a relationship that is constantly up in flames. Name-calling, sarcasm, criticism, and violence (from throwing things, slamming doors, to actual physical abuse) result in emotional wounds that are hard to heal and relationships that are hard to rescue.
The Cure: Pour Water on the FlamesThe next time you feel anger guiding you to say, or do, things you might regret, take time to cool off. If that's not possible, try framing your complaints as requests. For instance instead of, "Why did you forget our date?," you could say, "I feel sad that you forgot our date. How can we make sure this doesn't happen again?" If your partner is the one who is fanning the flames, don't engage in the vicious cycle of insults and tantrums. You can't fight fire with fire if the other person won't engage in the flame-throwing.

Red Flag #3: Refusing to Own UpNo one is perfect, so why is it that some of us refuse to take responsibility in our most important relationships? Passing the buck and playing the victim are surefire ways to put a relationship in jeopardy.
The Cure: Take Responsibility for Your ActionsThe next time you forget an anniversary, or say something hurtful to your spouse, don't try to pass the buck and refuse to take responsibility. Instead, admit where you went wrong and try harder next time. Sounds simple... but it can save your relationship.
By making simple changes to the way you and your partner communicate, you can keep your relationship intact. All couples fight and argue, but it is how you fight and argue that determines whether your love can weather the storm.

The Big Question: 'Why Should I Hire You?'

"Why should I hire you?"
This is the classic question most of us hear during an interview. It's often preceded by the phrase, "I've already interviewed another person for this position who looks perfect." Then comes the killer question, "Why should I hire YOU?"
Be careful to avoid clever retorts or comedic one-liners here. Your interview is serious business and a wrong answer will send you packing. This is, in fact, the one question that interviewers like to ask because the answer can so easily separate the contenders from the also-rans. Give a wrong answer and the large "Game Over" sign flashes above your head.
The 'Story' Approach
What they really want to know is, "How are you different than all the other candidates who have applied for this position?" With this in mind, a good way to approach your answer here is to launch into your best "story" that answers this question, "Will you go the extra mile?"
Why is the employer asking why they should hire you? Because there are only five areas of interest that they have about you as a candidate:
Your skills
Your knowledge about the company
Your manageability
Your affordability
Whether you can go above and beyond your job description
In this day of "lean and mean" operations philosophy, employers are looking for employees who can think bigger and perform duties above and beyond their jobs.
Demonstrate Your Accomplishments
Realize that there will always be competing candidates with a higher skill level, more experience, more education/training, or even a smoother interviewing style. The one equalizer though, is the ability to demonstrate how you have risen above and gone that extra mile to accomplish an important task, complete the job or realize an important goal.
Here, you recant that story of exactly how you worked 60-hour weeks, acquired new skills, or whatever it took to distinguish yourself and meet the challenge head on to successfully make the sale, save the project or rescue a client. If you can monetize (put a dollar value on) the end result, your story will only be that much more dramatic.
Tell It Often
Knowing this ahead of time, it's wise to put in the time beforehand to work on your answer to this question. Pick your best example of how you went above and beyond in your job. Work on your story to perfect it. Set the scene, describe the challenge and describe your role and the successful conclusion. Use this as an example of how you use your particular set of skills in an extraordinary time to "give it your all" and produce a clear benefit to your employer.
Since no other candidate can duplicate your own personal story here, you'll make a memorable impression. Not only that, but quite possibly you'll pull yourself ahead of that "perfect" candidate who preceded you.
As a recruiter, Joe Turner has spent the past 15 years finding and placing top candidates in some of the best jobs of their careers. Author of "Job Search Secrets Unlocked," Joe has interviewed on radio talk shows and offers free insider job search secrets at jobchangesecrets.com.

All about HApp!nEsS

Happy, happy, happy,...... they said you may see happines in a person if they smiles... cheers and approach to you with a warmth heart....ah.... God this person has nice aura..i think his a good person... intelligent and easy to deal with many things. "Smile though your heart is aching" they said.....hahahaha its true.....especially when your love one is not around....but anyway lets go back to our topic...HAPPINESS....if I may ask you...what is the meaning of happiness to you?....Well definitely happiness is a portion that you`ve feel in your heart within...you do good to someome..., like giving kiss, brought back the lost thing to the owner, sign of the cross everytime you pass at the Miagao Church (one of the main attraction in Miagao, included in World Heritage Church), giving respect to your Boss, greetings to your mother and father when the night comes( Nay Tay..., Mayad nga Gab-i), good interaction to anybody....(even they may say your plastic...no I`m not thats the way I interact to my close friend.)....giving consideration to your customers..like giving respect to their oppinions and suggestions, saying thank you...everytime u lend there change, what else... when someone say yes to your favor, when someone affirmed of your goodness...many to mention the others...

Happiness when your love one is there....comfort and gives you courage in everything you do...responds and interact. I`m so sad this time coz my honeybunch is not around....he didnt communicate to me for 2 days....Im so sad...huhhuh...(any way it didnt include in our topic)...Kyle where are you I miss you so much...

7 Steps to Improving Relationships

Conflict is an inevitable part of life, but it need not always be painful. In fact, we all have within us the ability to sustain relationships even when we deeply disagree. When we reach our breaking point (as we all do), and need to walk away, we can do so in ways that make it more likely that we will come back together.

Here are seven ancient Talmudic steps to follow when confronted with a conflict. They create conversation -- not denigration -- and encourage us to talk about what matters most in ways that hurt the least.

1. Give Yourself a Break
Sometimes you need some distance-some time to cool off and reflect. But it should be just that, i.e., a limited amount of time after which you and the person with whom you are fighting agree to come back together and revisit the issues. A time out can be a great thing, as long as its design is to bring you back together.

2. Respect the Other Person's Dignity
The one whom you are in conflict with should never lose their value as a human being.
The one whom you are in conflict with should never lose their value as a human being. No matter how right you think you are and how wrong they may be, don't deny their dignity; you will do more harm than good.

3. Experience Radical Empathy
We must do everything in our power to identify with the other person and their position before fighting for our own. Simply saying that we understand their point of view is not enough--be able to argue it well and present it as if you shared it yourself.

4. Acknowledge Your Partner's Wisdom
Before we can be their teacher, we must first become their student. We must accept that no matter how wrong someone is about one thing, they are unlikely to be wrong about everything.
Nobody is smart enough to be 100 percent right or dumb enough to 100 percent wrong.
Nobody is smart enough to be 100 percent right or dumb enough to 100 percent wrong.

5. Know that Conflict Hurts Everyone
Appreciate that even when we are doing everything right in handling our relationships, we all pay a price when a conflict unfolds. Being right should not insulate us from feeling the pain that is a part of the conflict in which we are engaged.

6. Look First to Yourself
Even when we are right, we should always ask how we participate in creating and perpetuating the conflict. We all play the blame game sometimes, but it's important to point a thumb back at ourselves before a finger at the other person.

7. Remember, Being Right is Not Enough
Remind ourselves that the only real justification for conflict with those about whom we care is that it addresses an issue, which is central to sustaining the relationship over time. If it's just about being right, then it probably isn't worth it.

Work and Enjoyment

Work.....inorder for you to eat..and enjoy your labor..you have to work....it is important in our daily lives...In every work there are always..advantage and disadvantages..negatives and possitives..in a weak person..he focuses only in negative side of it..while the wise person focuses to both possitive and negative aspects of his work. You can do both work and fun...like me...im working in a computer shop...I`m very..thankful to my boss..Maam Sanda, coz she let me do what I want to do..with her supervision. I` glad to work in this company because I did`nt feel boring...there are many things you can do in computer to cheer up yoursef...like: playing neopets, checking my friendster, chatting in chikka, opening my email and reading comments from Manila Gay Guy..which I subscribe. Through computer, playing and focusing to your work is both fun...as long as you can handle it precisely. There are lucky instances...I had a customer his name is Earl(he wants me to call him) he has a wife working in dubai...and he wanted me to teach him how to sign up in Yahoo..for an email...coz his wife sends the important documents from her email to Earl`s email.. after we finished it all...printing etc..he gave me 50.00 for my tip..i refuse and say thank you...I`m so happy in doing it...coz its part of my work without expecting any return.

$$ A neW FR!eND $$

I feel blessed, lucky, grateful and happy...why...coz this day in unexpected time...one of my friend visits me here...in my office...and we start a conversation...it all started with RoseAnn`s friendster...i added him...for about a couple of days...i didnt expected he accepted my invitation plus...i discover bout her sister and being my friend too. We had a nice conversation this day,...bout the problem of his friendster account.....sadly i don`t know the answer bout it...he open some topic...i tell him bout my friend "nene" and he knew her....he shows me bout the story of his friendster pics....he won in Search for Mr. PMT `07 in their school...he ask me some questions like: you know "khianne"....yea i know...she`s my Co-PYM.....he said ok...what is PYM..i said ParishYouthMinistry...but me and batchmates quited this time..but PYM still continuos with different leader..I`m very thankful to God..coz even in this way, he makes me feel happy....

+ -- Be Thankful ------

People around us are gifts from God....so we have to love them...take care of them...and were responsible for them...showing love or kindness to a person is so very hard, especially when there is no bond between them...loving and giving love must be mutual, or sometimes love can sacrifice..like "ill give you something but I didn`t expect the return"...as of now in my life I may say..i loved god..coz he gaves me everything i want, i need and love..He gave me Kyle my boyfriend...and through his grace were 1year and 2months as of now...A loving, understanding, full of patience and caring honybunch. Needs...I`m not too particular about it...coz I believe in God says: don`t worry about what you eat, what you wear, your home... coz I`m here to provide all your needs even in your old days...im here at your side to guide you and bless you in your daily.I`m blessed that I have worked in a private company like Bue11...mingle and have harmonious relationship with the people sorrounds me..Mam Sanda..Inday Lourdes...Manang Gemma...Tita Luz...Don-don and the kidz Raiza and Ryan Earl Junior.