7 Steps to Improving Relationships

Conflict is an inevitable part of life, but it need not always be painful. In fact, we all have within us the ability to sustain relationships even when we deeply disagree. When we reach our breaking point (as we all do), and need to walk away, we can do so in ways that make it more likely that we will come back together.

Here are seven ancient Talmudic steps to follow when confronted with a conflict. They create conversation -- not denigration -- and encourage us to talk about what matters most in ways that hurt the least.

1. Give Yourself a Break
Sometimes you need some distance-some time to cool off and reflect. But it should be just that, i.e., a limited amount of time after which you and the person with whom you are fighting agree to come back together and revisit the issues. A time out can be a great thing, as long as its design is to bring you back together.

2. Respect the Other Person's Dignity
The one whom you are in conflict with should never lose their value as a human being.
The one whom you are in conflict with should never lose their value as a human being. No matter how right you think you are and how wrong they may be, don't deny their dignity; you will do more harm than good.

3. Experience Radical Empathy
We must do everything in our power to identify with the other person and their position before fighting for our own. Simply saying that we understand their point of view is not enough--be able to argue it well and present it as if you shared it yourself.

4. Acknowledge Your Partner's Wisdom
Before we can be their teacher, we must first become their student. We must accept that no matter how wrong someone is about one thing, they are unlikely to be wrong about everything.
Nobody is smart enough to be 100 percent right or dumb enough to 100 percent wrong.
Nobody is smart enough to be 100 percent right or dumb enough to 100 percent wrong.

5. Know that Conflict Hurts Everyone
Appreciate that even when we are doing everything right in handling our relationships, we all pay a price when a conflict unfolds. Being right should not insulate us from feeling the pain that is a part of the conflict in which we are engaged.

6. Look First to Yourself
Even when we are right, we should always ask how we participate in creating and perpetuating the conflict. We all play the blame game sometimes, but it's important to point a thumb back at ourselves before a finger at the other person.

7. Remember, Being Right is Not Enough
Remind ourselves that the only real justification for conflict with those about whom we care is that it addresses an issue, which is central to sustaining the relationship over time. If it's just about being right, then it probably isn't worth it.

Work and Enjoyment

Work.....inorder for you to eat..and enjoy your labor..you have to work....it is important in our daily lives...In every work there are always..advantage and disadvantages..negatives and possitives..in a weak person..he focuses only in negative side of it..while the wise person focuses to both possitive and negative aspects of his work. You can do both work and fun...like me...im working in a computer shop...I`m very..thankful to my boss..Maam Sanda, coz she let me do what I want to do..with her supervision. I` glad to work in this company because I did`nt feel boring...there are many things you can do in computer to cheer up yoursef...like: playing neopets, checking my friendster, chatting in chikka, opening my email and reading comments from Manila Gay Guy..which I subscribe. Through computer, playing and focusing to your work is both fun...as long as you can handle it precisely. There are lucky instances...I had a customer his name is Earl(he wants me to call him) he has a wife working in dubai...and he wanted me to teach him how to sign up in Yahoo..for an email...coz his wife sends the important documents from her email to Earl`s email.. after we finished it all...printing etc..he gave me 50.00 for my tip..i refuse and say thank you...I`m so happy in doing it...coz its part of my work without expecting any return.

$$ A neW FR!eND $$

I feel blessed, lucky, grateful and happy...why...coz this day in unexpected time...one of my friend visits me here...in my office...and we start a conversation...it all started with RoseAnn`s friendster...i added him...for about a couple of days...i didnt expected he accepted my invitation plus...i discover bout her sister and being my friend too. We had a nice conversation this day,...bout the problem of his friendster account.....sadly i don`t know the answer bout it...he open some topic...i tell him bout my friend "nene" and he knew her....he shows me bout the story of his friendster pics....he won in Search for Mr. PMT `07 in their school...he ask me some questions like: you know "khianne"....yea i know...she`s my Co-PYM.....he said ok...what is PYM..i said ParishYouthMinistry...but me and batchmates quited this time..but PYM still continuos with different leader..I`m very thankful to God..coz even in this way, he makes me feel happy....

+ -- Be Thankful ------

People around us are gifts from God....so we have to love them...take care of them...and were responsible for them...showing love or kindness to a person is so very hard, especially when there is no bond between them...loving and giving love must be mutual, or sometimes love can sacrifice..like "ill give you something but I didn`t expect the return"...as of now in my life I may say..i loved god..coz he gaves me everything i want, i need and love..He gave me Kyle my boyfriend...and through his grace were 1year and 2months as of now...A loving, understanding, full of patience and caring honybunch. Needs...I`m not too particular about it...coz I believe in God says: don`t worry about what you eat, what you wear, your home... coz I`m here to provide all your needs even in your old days...im here at your side to guide you and bless you in your daily.I`m blessed that I have worked in a private company like Bue11...mingle and have harmonious relationship with the people sorrounds me..Mam Sanda..Inday Lourdes...Manang Gemma...Tita Luz...Don-don and the kidz Raiza and Ryan Earl Junior.

Trust in God...

The people who find life to be good....
and who live with joy and confidence .....
are not necessarily the ones who are favored by luck and an easy life.
In fact, often quite the opposite is true;
those who have had to struggle againts the winds of misfortune,
sorrow and defeat often emerge with a strenghtened character and faith.
This happens if we live from day to day with a deep trust in the goodnes of the CREATOR
and the world He has given us....

I love that word..yes struggles and difficulties is one of the ingredient in our life....they tell us to recognize our mistakes, errors and shortcomings in our fellow journeyer...

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